Why do you Poly

Why do you poly? Why do you have an open marriage? These are questions that have been bouncing around in my head for a few weeks, consuming much of my thought time. I know why I poly. I know why I want an open marriage. I will share my reasons in this post and I hope you might do the same in the comments.

Poly Diversity

I read a post on fet today about the time given to poly partners not needing to be fair or equal. You can read it here https://fetlife.com/users/1065014/posts/2191958

The post is an excellent read and got me to thinking about that very thing in poly. As a fairly new poly person (well, not exactly new. I’ve always been poly, I just didn’t know it was a thing), I hear a lot about how all the partners in a poly relationship should be equal or should have equal access to each other. This has always seemed a bit exhausting to me. Full time relationships are very demanding, even good ones. So, to believe that every person you may involve yourself with will need that amount of attention is quite daunting.

Finally, It Makes Sense

We have recently entered into our first real poly relationship. Within a few weeks we had brought her completely into our lives and our home. The experience over the past couple of months has been a very interesting insight into ourselves, what we want from poly and who we are to each other.

Today she posted a writing about being our third and some of the words she wrote caused a few things to click in my head.