Strong Foundations – Back to Basics

polyOver the last year, we have been through a fuckton of changes in our non-monogamy.  I don’t really know what else to call it. We are definitely not monogamous. We’re past the notch in the bedpost, fucking for sport, just sex swinging but not quite all the way to poly. But, it’s not door swung wide, no holds barred, floundering in the deep end open either. I’m just not sure what the fuck to call it. So, for now, let’s just stick with calling it our non-monogamy. Continue reading

Living a life to be loved

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The world is dark beyond the windows. The house is quiet as the kids sleep. We are having coffee. Daddy on his playstation playing baseball and I on my computer, perving fetlife and writing. I love these quiet mornings shared over coffee. Continue reading

My Crazy Life… The growth continues

openlife10Over the course of the last three or four months, my marriage has been evolving at an almost startling pace. In particular, it’s been very surreal this past month or so. In that very short period of time, my husband of almost 14 years, figured out and came to terms with the fact that he could have strong enough feelings for another woman to consider that he might be in love with her. We talked and talked and talked and talked some more to get our heads around that. With that realization came another… if he could fall / be in love with someone else without it affecting his love and affection for me, then he had to believe that I was capable of doing the same. After that realization, I was given a mess of new freedoms, everything from talking with whoever I wanted to online to being able to start actively seeking a local playmate and getting back on twitter. Continue reading

The Kinklings, Week 4 Topic: Love

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Love. Wow. That is a pretty broad topic and I am a girl of many words. Let’s narrow this down a bit, shall we. I think I’ll stick to the idea of romantic love as I write today.

When I was a little girl, love looked like a fairy tale made up of Prince Charming and some sort of princess (usually in distress). Love was wonderful, rosy, easy, ya know… happily ever after and all that good stuff. At least it was on TV and in the story books and the movies and well… just about everywhere you looked. Continue reading

Poly Diversity

I read a post on fet today about the time given to poly partners not needing to be fair or equal. You can read it here https://fetlife.com/users/1065014/posts/2191958

The post is an excellent read and got me to thinking about that very thing in poly. As a fairly new poly person (well, not exactly new. I’ve always been poly, I just didn’t know it was a thing), I hear a lot about how all the partners in a poly relationship should be equal or should have equal access to each other. This has always seemed a bit exhausting to me. Full time relationships are very demanding, even good ones. So, to believe that every person you may involve yourself with will need that amount of attention is quite daunting. Continue reading

Daddy

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I sat at the opposite end of the table from Daddy at the munch last night. I sat with my pretty girl crush and He sat with kitten. There were several people between us, but I had a perfect view of Him. As dinner progressed and the conversations got lively, I caught myself looking around the table as I often do when in a large group of people. Continue reading