Differences: Dom/Top and Sub/bottom

What to YOU is the difference between a Dom and a Top?
Sub and a bottom?


(Apply gender as it works for you in this answer)

These are my thoughts. They fluctuate often as I learn new things and encounter new dynamics and the people involved in those dynamics. They are in no way intended to encompass or describe a one true way definition of Dom, Top, sub or bottom.*

To me, the biggest difference is in the level of need to dominate and the level of need to submit. Continue reading

Switchy Switchy


It is ever evolving, isn’t it? This journey of discovery that we are on. There was a bit of evolution just last night.

Let me tell you a little about it…

So for a while now, several of my friends have said that they believed I might be more a switch than I like to think I am. Continue reading