Fuck their definitions…

sexuality

When we are growing up, the world we live in dictates to us what kind of sexuality is acceptable and what is not. The media, the government, the educational system, the church are all determined to tell you what version of your personal sexuality is ok and what turn ons are acceptable. Sexuality is not open for discussion or discovery and certainly not available to be determined or defined by the one living with it and anything outside of the accepted norm of turn ons is something to feel ashamed of, to feel guilty for experiencing…. something we are taught that is not normal, not acceptable and not allowed. Continue reading

So you want to play with the princess…. ok, but first…

So I read this article on Fetlife — So, You Want to Play with my Sub — and, of course, it created all the thought bubbles in my head and so here we are with a new post.

I like everything the writer has to say in the article. I agree with him 100 percent. If you are a new Dom or new to the scene or even just new to the sub you would like to play with, there is a very wrong way and several right ways to go about doing asking to do so.  The writer of the article stopped at saying no to the interested person who went about asking in the wrong way, but I believe there is more to be said on the subject. If there is a wrong way to do something, then it stands to reason that there is also a right way to do it. Working off the premise that the only reason an interested party would approach a Dom in the way described in the original article, is that they are very uneducated about the lifestyle, about protocol, possibly even about manners, I offer some advice to possibly do it better. Continue reading

Switchy Switchy

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It is ever evolving, isn’t it? This journey of discovery that we are on. There was a bit of evolution just last night.

Let me tell you a little about it…

So for a while now, several of my friends have said that they believed I might be more a switch than I like to think I am. Continue reading

My Mid-Life Crisis: Only sort of Submissive

midlife1I posted a status update earlier that said I thought I might be going through a mid life identity crisis. This has been on my mind all day. It came up through the course of a conversation Daddy and I had last night about where we are, who we are in relation to each other and where we belong in the lifestyle.

At one time I would have said I was a submissive who could sometimes be a brat and a baby pain slut. After spending the last three years exploring the lifestyle in real life with Daddy, with our local kink families and online I think that definition of who I am in the lifestyle is not entirely accurate or perhaps has changed. Continue reading